The greatest Pain

When you love someone, you will be happy when they reciprocate it. Do you feel sad when they hate you? Or is there another act which that person can do for you, which will inflict pain.

Lets take an example, say you show your report card to your father. If he is happy for you - good, if he gets sad and worried about you then it’s kind of ok. What if he doesn’t even care he just signs it and gives it back to you.

Indifference is the greatest pain! It’s the huge insult which can be given by a person to another. We can all talk about doing an act which will make you happy.  Even if you are doing an act socially you are doing it to make yourself happy. So we may say that it doesn’t matter if someone is indifferent.

But it’s not really practical! We may be happy doing the act but when we learn about the indifference of the consumer of the act are we still happy?

But doesn’t a loving mother do a lot of selfless acts for her child, even if that child is indifferent.

Yes, but its an exception because the mother is seeing the child ‘as a part of’ her.

Act of love doesn’t really mean your act towards someone. Act of love also means doing something that you love. It can even be a piece of art; it can be your everyday job. Whatever you do, you touch other’s life and if you put your heart into it and still you get indifference from the other side. Then?

You end up doing nothing at all. If you open your heart into something (or someone), there is a chance that it will be broken, broken by an act of indifference.

How do we handle this?

 First things first, we should not stop our acts. Because if you stop doing what you love, then you don’t exist. Second, we should accept that external things will not change- people may continue to be indifferent. Third, become a karma yogi.

Karma Yogi could be a high concept. But nothing wrong in working towards that if it guarantees less pain.

We should dedicate our work to God, believing that He loves and cares for us. He takes time to see what we have been doing.

 But how could He have time?

 Because He is timeless.

But how can I dedicate an act of love to somebody to God?

It’s basically still karma, still some action. Even if you are thinking about someone now, it’s technically an act, a mental act

It still doesn’t make sense I do something for someone or on something. This is totally unrelated to God?

Everything is God. Both you and that someone and that something ‘is part of’ Him. If you take out God nothing remains.

Does God really exist?

That’s out of topic, we are talking about belief which doesn’t require proof.

If a belief makes you happy, it’s good enough. If you can continue your act of love and can still smile on the face of indifference, then it’s good.

And one more thing act like God.

Be sensitive. When you suspect someone doing something: an act of love, a piece of act, a mundane work which he thinks he has done well. Acknowledge it, tell him.

Now take a moment and reflect on this. God has created this wonderful universe, this is a piece of art from him. It’s so magnificent that we may never able to fathom it. But we are indifferent! Isn’t it?